Premature Ejaculation

All night long! …Not likely. The average male ejaculates in less than 2 minutes after insertion, while the average woman needs at least 8-10 minutes of continuous stimulation in order to reach orgasm. Many women need a longer period of stimulation during intercourse in order to climax. This obviously brings up a problem. Men often ejaculate too soon for the woman to be sexually satisfied. Thus premature ejaculation is virtually every woman's number one complaint when it comes to intercourse.

Whenever a man ejaculates before he would like too, it’s considered premature ejaculation. In other words, the man lacks the ability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable for both partners. As soon as he gets too excited he loses control and the ejaculation occurs.

Premature ejaculation usually occurs more frequently in men with less experience. Over time, with frequent sexual activity a man develops more control over his orgasm and develops a sort of tolerance to pleasure. As a result, the first time a man has sex he is very likely to experience premature ejaculation. Also if a man hasn’t had sex for a significant period of time, he may have lost this “tolerance” and thus will be more likely to have premature ejaculation the next time he has sex. This is why regular masturbation helps prevent premature ejaculation. It maintains a tolerance to sexual pleasure.

Fortunately there are ways to prevent premature ejaculation, some better than others.

  • Relaxation is one of the keys to avoiding premature ejaculation. Breathing deeply during sex can help you achieve a relaxed state.
  • Placing the tip of your tongue against the roof of your mouth may slow ejaculation.
  • If you feel you're about to ejaculate, take a break. Let the feeling subside. Use other techniques in the mean time to keep your partner aroused.
  • Many drug stores offer desensitizing gels, and condoms that contain desensitizing gels. These control the amount of pleasure you feel and thus delay ejaculation.
  • Regular Kegel exercises. the same muscles you use to hold in urine are involved in ejaculation. By exercising these muscles regularly (several repetitions of flexing and relaxing) you will gain the ability to keep them relaxed during sex which will help you delay ejaculation. This technique requires self-discipline to exercise them regularly, focusing on both flexing and relaxing. The good news is you can do these exercises any time, any where.
  • Masturbate & ejaculate an hour or so before sex. Warning! Once you ejaculate, sperm will be in your penis. If you have unprotected sex, you can easily get a girl pregnant even if you don't ejaculate inside her vagina.
  • Wear a condom! You should always wear a condom. No excuses. No exceptions. If you don't, you are at risk for acquiring incurable diseases and causing pregnancy. As a man, you have absolutely no control over what happens if you get a girl pregnant. You may want an abortion, to place the baby for adoption, or to raise it, but it does not matter what you want. In our society the mother gets to decide and you are forced to live with the consequences the rest of your life. Not only can a condom save your life, and avoid an unplanned pregnancy. It also allows you to last longer in bed. Real men wear condoms.


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